One of the most common questions clients ask their psychic advisor is, “Will I get back together with my ex?”
Generally, it’s women who want an answer to this question, although men ask it often enough as well. I often answer that question with another question: “Do you really want your ex back?” Many times the haughty reply is, “I’m still in love! Of course I do!”
But do you really?
A while back, a psychic colleague and I were discussing this very subject when she shared these words of wisdom: “Your ex is your ex for a reason.” In other words, you wouldn’t have ended the relationship if it was healthy. Therefore, there was a problem (or multiple problems) in the former partnership.
It’s easy to point your finger at your ex as being the source of all of the problems. But as the old saying goes, “It takes two to tango.” So rather than spending time wondering if you’ll be a couple again, you should be focusing on yourself to discern what your role in the breakup was. One way to do this is to meditate on the following questions:
- Did you ignore any red flags when the two of you met?
- Do you want your ex back simply because you’re lonely?
- Could you accept your ex just as they are? Or were you trying to change them?
- Where did you spend most of your time together? In bed? Talking over coffee? Out drinking at nightclubs and bars?
- Were you accepting of unacceptable behavior?
- What was your behavior like in the relationship?
Honest answers to these questions will help you see, for better or for worse, the true reality of the relationship.
Maybe you’re annoyed with me now for recommending that you to do all that work, when all you want to do is get back together with your ex. Maybe you just want the psychic’s answer.
So, let’s say the psychic says she sees you getting back together. Time to happy dance, right?
Well, maybe.
Some couples get back together because it’s the familiar and comfortable thing to do. But the reasons for the breakup still exist. Your relationship won’t be able to grow unless you address those reasons. So it will either stagnate or the two of you will continue repeating the same dysfunctional dance.
Now, back to the original question. If you consult with a psychic to ask if you’ll get back together with your ex, please pay close attention to the valuable information the psychic shares during your reading. What they tell you will either enhance your relationship, or will spare you from the agony of reuniting with your ex. The information they share could be that he’s not ready for a commitment, she’s fallen in love with somebody else, he’s been cheating, stop pushing for marriage and just enjoy the relationship, or you both need to work on your communication skills because there’s much love evident in the relationship.
Whether the answer of getting back together with your ex is “yes” or “no,” you need to learn whatever lessons this relationship has to offer to you which will serve to help you grow.
While I agree that self-reflection is important, I think the article overlooks the emotional aspects of wanting an ex back. Sometimes love is irrational, and it’s not always about self-improvement or learning lessons—sometimes you just miss the person!
“Learn from past relationships”—it sounds simple enough but can be really hard in practice. This article serves as an important reminder that we need to take responsibility for our part in any relationship’s failure instead of playing the blame game.
I found this article to be incredibly insightful! It’s refreshing to see someone encourage self-reflection rather than just giving a yes or no answer. It’s true, relationships are complex, and understanding our own role is essential for growth!
@SkepticalSteve I’m with you on that! I mean, who needs a crystal ball when you have Netflix? Just binge-watch your favorite shows and forget about your ex—it’s way more fun than pondering over old flames!
“Your ex is your ex for a reason” sounds like something my grandma would say! But honestly, it’s kind of true. Maybe we should all just embrace our singleness—after all, pizza doesn’t judge us for eating alone on a Friday night!
*rolls eyes* So now we’re taking relationship advice from psychics? That’s rich! Instead of wasting time asking some ‘psychic’ if you’ll reunite with your ex, why not focus on moving forward instead? Classic!
Honestly, this article feels like a waste of time. It’s just full of vague advice that doesn’t actually help anyone. If people want to know if they’ll get back together, just tell them yes or no instead of this nonsense.
This piece raises some interesting points about relationships and self-awareness. It encourages readers to consider their own behaviors rather than solely blaming their exes. Understanding one’s role in a breakup can lead to healthier future relationships.