Do you find yourself wondering what your partner sees in you? If you’re someone that is anxious, chances are that you might wonder here and there if your partner is dating you because they like you or if they are dating you because they feel sorry for you.
Dating someone because you feel sorry for them is called pity dating. Thee kinds of relationships do exist and this happens when you are dating someone that you don’t really like. Maybe you started out flirting heavily with them and you decided to ask them out, but you realized that you didn’t really like them that much, but you dated them because you feel bad.
This can happen sometimes because the person falls for you before you ever tell them that you don’t really like them and then you feel bad and so you keep the relationship going. Another thing that can happen sometimes is that you start dating someone and you see their flaws, but you think that you can fix them and change them, and you are now deeply involved and there has been no changes.
These are all pity relationships and even though they might seem serious, there is no real love that comes out of these relationships. One might have feelings and the other might not. When it comes to love, you sometimes might mix up the feelings of love or lust or love and compassion. This means that you might want someone but not love them or you might really care for them, but you don’t really love them.
What to Do In a Pity Relationship
If you’re in a pity relationship then you need to make sure that you are doing the right thing. You might find that you have lost interest, and you no longer ask your partner to help you, nor do you feel emotionally connected with them. When there is a lack of love and a lack of heart, this is a big sign that the relationship isn’t good and that you are only there because you feel sorry for them.
Maybe they are constantly irritating you or when they touch you, you cringe inside. You might hang out with them, but you find that when you’re with them it feels like you’re doing a job instead of having fun. You might wish that you were somewhere else.
What Does This Mean About You?
Being in a pity relationship doesn’t mean that you’re a bad person. It means that you are kind and compassionate and that you stayed with someone because you didn’t want to hurt them. Once you realize that you are in this kind of relationship, you need to figure out how to let them go.
A pity relationship will end up leaving you resentful and bitter and this will not be good for you or your partner.
Final Thoughts
It isn’t fair for you or your partner if you are in a pity relationship. No one should have to work hard for love and if you find that you no longer love your partner, find a way to let them go without hurting them too much.
“The author thinks they can solve the world’s relationship issues with one article? If only life were that easy! Maybe next time they should include tips on how to escape from ‘pity’ without hurting feelings—good luck with that!
This article provides a solid overview of pity relationships, but it could benefit from more statistics or studies to back its claims. Understanding emotional dynamics in relationships is essential for those in such situations.
‘Feeling sorry’ for someone is an interesting angle. But isn’t it also about self-awareness? The article highlights that people often overlook their own needs in relationships—something many don’t consider deeply enough.
‘Pity dating’? More like ’emotional treadmill!’ You’re running but not going anywhere! If you’re feeling guilty about staying, it’s time to hop off and find someone who actually makes you feel good!
‘Pity dating’? Is that a new trend? Maybe I should start a support group for people who’ve been ‘pity dated.’ We can share ice cream and stories of our heartbreaks while laughing at our past choices!
While I appreciate the insight, this article seems overly simplistic. Relationships are complex and not just a matter of pity or genuine love. Life isn’t as black and white as this author portrays it.
‘Pity dating’ sounds like a dramatic term crafted for clicks. Aren’t all relationships built on some level of compromise? Suggesting that love must be pure overlooks the reality that feelings can evolve.
I absolutely loved this article! It’s so refreshing to see someone tackle the topic of pity dating head-on. It helped me reflect on my own relationship, and now I feel empowered to make positive changes. Thank you for sharing!