Are you a perfectionist? Many perfectionists are very hard on themselves when it comes to perceived imperfections, faults, and shortcomings. You may think that you’re not good enough in some ways, thereby placing tremendous pressure on yourself to succeed. That’s great, but don’t forget that life is a “work in progress.” The problem with perfectionism is that it steals life from us. The weight of the anxiety and pressure prevents you from feeling fully alive and able to engage authentically in life.
Perfection is Futile
One of the world’s greatest artists, Leonardo da Vinci, said, “Art is never finished; only abandoned.” This means that there is a moment when every artist has to declare their work complete (not perfect) and walk away from it. It’s not about abandonment. Rather, it’s about letting something stand on its own. There is always something to refine or update—there is always something that could be better—but thinking that way can drive you crazy. When it comes to something your want in your life, get as close to it as you can, be happy with how far you’ve come and then share your accomplishment with others. After, move on to something else that’s fulfilling.
The Perfect Job
Are you looking for that perfect job? First, what would that look like exactly? Is it what you would have considered perfect 10 years ago—or 10 years from now? Probably not. If you’re sitting at your desk right now wanting something more fulfilling or hoping for something better, consider that the best place to start creating a “perfect” job is by making the one you have better.
If that sounds silly or impossible, it’s good to recognize that what you have is actually what you wanted at one point. See, you already succeeded at getting the “perfect” job! But over time you became unsatisfied. But you don’t have to abandon your current job to find a “perfect” job. You can make the job you have the one you want again. You just need to cultivate and nurture it like you first did. But do it with the understanding that it will never be perfect. An imperfect job can still be a great job!
The Perfect Mate
Even the best relationships don’t consist of two perfect people. You and your partner are always changing and growing, and that means you can and will let each other down on occasion. Even if your partner falls short of your expectations, and you fall short of theirs, you can still have a lot of fun. But before the fun starts again, you need to be able to forgive each other so you can grow as a couple. Forgiveness makes you a better person (not a perfect person). Mutual acceptance in a relationship also creates a strong foundation for life-long love. That’s a real achievement, and it makes your relationship better.
The Perfect You
If you’re a perfectionist, it’s difficult to love and accept yourself just the way you are. Do you think you could be thinner, prettier, funnier or sexier? Are you angry at yourself for not being these things? Try forgiving and accepting yourself for being human instead. If you can’t, how do you expect to be able to forgive and accept others? Loving others starts with loving yourself!
There is no such thing as perfection, whether it’s a job, a mate or a you. Instead of striving for an unattainable goal, take the opportunities when you or a loved one fall short of expectations to practice acceptance. That’s actually the perfect opportunity to forgive more and love more. And remember, perfectionism is problematic because it is impossible to achieve.
This post reminds me of those motivational posters you see everywhere—nice message but somewhat unrealistic in practice! Perfectionism can drive success; sometimes you have to demand more from yourself!
This article really resonated with me! I’ve always struggled with perfectionism, and it’s refreshing to read that it’s okay to embrace imperfections. Life is truly a journey, and I’m excited to share my progress with others.
I agree! It’s all about growth and acceptance. Perfectionism can be such a trap; we should celebrate our achievements instead of focusing on what’s lacking!
While I appreciate the sentiment, isn’t it also important to strive for excellence in some areas? There has to be a balance between striving for better and accepting flaws.
“Perfection is futile”—what a cliché! While I understand the point, isn’t aiming high part of human nature? Giving up on perfection feels like giving up on potential.
*sigh* This article really hit home for me. As someone who battles perfectionism daily, I often feel paralyzed by my own standards. Understanding that imperfection is part of life has lifted a weight off my shoulders.
‘Strive for the ideal but don’t expect perfection’—such wise words! It makes so much sense when you think about it; we should focus on what we can learn from our imperfections.
Perfection? More like ‘per-fixation’ if you ask me! It’s hilarious how we stress over little things while forgetting the bigger picture: life is meant to be enjoyed, not micromanaged!
Honestly, this whole idea is just another excuse for mediocrity. Sure, imperfection is part of life, but shouldn’t we aim higher instead of settling for less? It feels lazy to me.
‘Perfection is unattainable!’ Well, tell that to my mom who insists her lasagna must be perfect every Sunday! Honestly though, life is like lasagna: messy but totally delicious!
The article touches on psychological concepts that are quite fascinating. The link between perfectionism and anxiety is well-documented in psychological literature. It’s important for people to understand that striving for perfection can lead to detrimental mental health outcomes.
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